Remember when I told you a few days ago how hard at work I’ve been. Well here are some pictures that I took today in the FREEZING out side so this is all she took for today! When I can feel my nose again in a couple days maybe there will be a few more! These will be ready and available soon so keep watching!
Yummy rich Goat Milk, Gluten Free Oats (its all I ever have on hand) and raw local wild flower honey! This soap reminds me of a graham cracker.
Eirene got a new photoshoot
Same Eirene fragrance just a photo facelift to match the current image style.
Yum I Love me some chai so what better than some Spiced Milk with Honey soap?
Remember when I was talking about that soap I was making while on the phone well here it is! Apollo has Oats & honey with Bay, Black Pepper & Cypress Essential oil!
Ok this is yet another thing that had great plans and got pushed aside in the craziness of what 2010 was! Lets see where I’m at I actually completed a few more things than I expected but probably need to rethink a few as well!
101 Things in 1001 days
** Items in orange have been re evaluated or changed.
Ask for advice and take it
Have a Yes! day. 0/6
Gratitude blog weekly 10 times 0/10
Identify 100 things that make me happy 0/100
Identify 25 things I like about myself 0/25
Go to a coffee shop & enjoy time ALONE! 0/6
Blog 15 times per month 0/32
Blog a kid or photo post 50 times 0/50
9. Plan herb and; vegetable garden
10. Plant herb and vegetable garden
11. Sew reusable bags for craft shows
12. Find 5 ways to be greener 0/5
13. Build Raised Garden beds
14. Start Worm composting (as much as I love this idea we know we are moving in the spring 2012 so Ill start it after the move)
15. Make produce bags to share
16. Promote reusable items on blog monthly 0/32
17. Set up table at neighborhood fair about eco savings and green on the cheap
18. Organize Craft areas and Keep them that way 0/2
19. Finish decorating each room 0/6
20. Clean up kitchen at NIGHT not the next morning every night for 3 weeks instead of in the morning 0/21
21. send out birthday cards for everyone on calendar each month 0/32 Change to Ecards its GREENER!
22. Make bed every morning for a week for 3 weeks 0/21
23. Learn to knit in the round make hats 0/6
24. Knit socks for whole family 0/8
25. Sew more aprons for myself 0/5
26. Make a quilt out of scraps
27.. Finish all UFO’s
28. Read 10 Non Fiction Books 4/10
29. Read 10 Books of my choosing 0/10
30. Visit 20 Museums with the kids 8/20
31. Listen to 3 Friends complete playlists 1/3
32. Go someplace weekly with kids non errand related 5/50
33. Make a new recipe 0/64 I’ll go through our meal plans to update this)
34. Cook and host a holiday meal (it was cooked but we had no one to host)
35. Organize a cookie swap
36. Organize a craft swap
37. Bake goodies for neighbors
38. Plant flower pots for front and keep them alive the entire season 0/3
39. Learn to bake edible bread
For My Kids
40. Read to kids daily
41. Start Nancy Drew Mysteries with Lexi
42. Update kids blog Bi-weekly 0/70
43. Bake with Lexi each month 2/30
44. Bake with Jack each month 2/30
45. Bake with Rory each month 2/30
46. Visit with Brenna 4/6
47. Create a conversation Jar for mealtimes & use it 0/30
48. Reinstate Friday Feingold Family Night
49. Date night with each kid monthly
50. Create Back up system for media stuff
51. Learn how to actually use photoshop (still struggling I’ll be getting aperture instead)
52. Learn to make Banner, button, and background images 1/3
53. Reformat Labels
54. Lose 101 pounds 13/101
55. Drink 8 Glasses of water daily for 30 days 30/30
56. Run a 5k twice 0/2
57. work out 5x per week for 5 weeks 3/25
58. Attend a yoga class 0/3
59. Find and go to chiropractor regularly again
60. Remember to take vitamins daily 30/30
61. Go to sleep before midnight more regularly
62. Save for new Camera
63. Craft table (opted for a different organizational direction instead)
Trundle bed for Lexi’s room (she wants a full size bed instead) B. She also asked for a new dresser like ours
65. Save for new bed and dressers
66. Donate 10% of sales per month to a cause 0/32
67. Make actual soap donations 3/12
68. Donate replaced furniture to family in need
Get Debt Free
69. Save Cash into a Jar for a “rainy day” (I think it rains to often)
70. Become Debt free with snowball method
71. Sell Minivan $ be car payment free (keeping minivan only 11 payments left)
72. Stick to menuplan for a month 0/10
73. Consign outgrown kids stuff (Donated most of it)
74. Add $5 for each completed task $10 for each uncompleted task 21/101
75. Create and implement budget WITH Steve
76. Cancel unused services
77. Meet 5 new people 0/5
78. Have a Girls night out 0/6
79. Inspire 2 other people to do 101 in 1001 0/2
80. Plan a paint your pottery night
81. Have a date with Steve 0/4
82. Have a meal with someone unexpected
83. Take a mother daughter day trip
84. Visit South Carolina 0/3
85. Take a family Vacation
86. Finish Current course work
87. Take East West herb course
88. Retake A and P
Get Busy in Business
89. Finish Reading Crush It!
90. Re evaluate COGs
91. Enter 3 spring juried shows for 2010 3/3
92. Enter 3 fall/winter shows for 2010 3/3
93. Streamline processes
94. Double 2009 sales in 2010
95. Actually do accounting monthly 0/32
96. Develop 3 new teas 1/3
97. Do a time accounting of how long things actually take
The whole boys loving pink is getting quite a bit of publicity these days. I’m on the fence about it all. Having a pink loving ballet dancing boy princess I understand it. However I also am not doing it because I relate to a celebrity or want my 15 minutes or want to exploit my son in anyway. I am here to help him pave the way, to help others who are in a situation now pave the way, to CHANGE things so maybe he won’t have to suffer quite so much. I do this as nothing more than Rory’s mother. I do this for love.
This was recently brought to the surface again from a place I least expected it. A mother was asking for help because her boy like mine likes pink, princesses and playing with the girls. When she asked him why he simply said because boys don’t fight. Then she said “My husband and I are very strict on this issue and most of the time try to not to allow him to do girlish things hoping that this might change his attitude.can we do anything to prevent it. we are really worried that this might affect his future sexual identity. please help.”
I drafted my reply :”This deeply offends me on many many levels. What is wrong with him liking pink? Will it hurt anyone if for a year or 6 months or 5 years he likes pink or barbie or princesses? Will it make him less of a man down the road to be caring and considerate kind empathetic in ways that many women complain that they wish their husbands, boyfriends partners were? Gender roles disgust me. If it were your little girl doing things that boys do like become educated, vote, work outside the home, become a teacher, doctor lawyer president would you still care? As recently at the 1950’s pink has historically been am masculine color and blue a calmer color reserved for girls.
I see my 4.5 yo boys love for pink no different than his 7 yo brothers need to wear orange for 2 straight years and honestly Rory is less intense and dramatic about it. He is my softer gentler boy. He takes ballet. He loves it it makes him happy so happy the teacher has said he truly brightens the class including the girl who used to push and shove in the class who doesn’t anymore. He was a “boy fairy princess” for Halloween I admire his creativity.
What right do I have to ever make him feel his beliefs are wrong? What kind of a parent would I be to make him feel any less than accepted for who he is! He wants to grow up and be a ballerina and a mommy so he can wear babies in slings and have snuggle time and read stories in nests. I can’t wait! And so what if in 20 years hens the “mommy” I’ll be there to love and support him. He doesn’t put gender roles on mommy & daddy other than mommy is comfort mommy takes care of us. Daddy can be abrupt and stern.
Future sex identity? Sounds to me more like some homophobic fear talking. Would it really be the end of the world if he is gay and happy? Or Would you prefer that he feel unaccepted and shut out in his own home by the people in the world who are supposed to love him the most during adolescence when things are confusing enough and rather than disappoint you or other fears kills himself instead?”
Should I have left it like that maybe not but I really wanted to make a point. I offended her. I think I probably meant to. I meant her to get mad to fight for her child to put on her mama bear big girl panties and protect her child to love him to fight for him. She is from Dubai she is using culture as an “excuse” for her behavior. I understand that homosexuality is not always accepted in other places and then I thought is it REALLY accepted here in the good ole US of A? BUT, BUT, BUT before we even get that far lets remember that we are also discussing a little boy here he is FOUR! FOUR! They don’t do things at this point to be gay or straight. They just do things to not hurt, to not feel challenged, or ridiculed. I sent off a second response. A response that in all honesty I cried while drafting. A response that has since moved me to tears reading it to a few friends over the phone. Friends that I know will be right there by my side loving my children and fighting for them as I will be for theres. Friends I thanks my lucky stars on a daily basis for having. Friends who urged me to share with you.
“This entire thing has been bothering me since I saw it. I was up pacing at midnight and couldn’t sleep til about 2 am and was up again at 4 still bothered by it. My heart breaks for children who are not accepted for whatever the reason by their family. Be it a father who is unaccepting of his daughter’s dyslexia. A mother who doesn’t understand how food is interfering with her children’s behavior. A sibling who torments his brother for liking to cook.
I was not intending to attack I was intending to ask tough questions to say the things often left unsaid. I understand cultural differences it does not mean I have to like them and I will challenge them. An example: My fathers family is from the old south my family did own slaves. Its a truth. It disgusts me. We live in the inner city of Baltimore we are the only white family on our block. A family member came to visit a year ago and asked us how we liked living around a bunch of niggers I nearly threw up. It was not a word my children had heard and if they had definitely not in that context. I explained that we lived around a bunch of hard working, working class families trying to do the best for their children and families. That it was hard enough trying to teach our children not to judge without someone they loved and respect to act in such a way and in my home I would not tolerate such language and I don’t.
I was very upset and posted a comment on my facebook page and a wonderful dear friend responded “The funny thing is, this isn’t solely about parenting. Rejecting the feminine, whether it’s attitudes or interest, in men/boys is plain old misogyny. I find it shocking to hear that there are so many femininity-hating mothers out there. FEMININITY IS NOT A CURSE OR AN INDICATION OF ONE’S SEXUALITY.” I hadn’t though of it that way at all, a new point of view.
Nada you asked a question I know my response upset you and I’m not entirely sorry it upset you. I believe our children are here to teach us life lessons. To teach us ALL life lessons. My 17 year old daughter like you and your husband fears that my acceptance of my pink princess loving boy and is also worried that it will affect his future sexual identity. Ironically he is her favorite of her little brothers and we have had many an argument not speaking for a few days over it my response to her was that no matter what I will love him I will support him I will fight for him. If he is a pink princess ballet loving construction worker with a gay lover I will love him. If he is an orange cowboy monster truck train loving ballerina hairdresser with a wife and kids I will love him. There is absolutely nothing in this world he could do that will stop me from loving him. I shared this with my daughter I said to her many of the things I said in the email. That I would rather him be alive and happy than dead because he was miserable and scared. I think she finally understood. For christmas she bought him a princess board game and pink pajamas. He hugged her and said “thank you brenna for loving the pink me”. I sobbed. Though she had never really said anything to him he knew. She is now a member of his boy princess club. She will fight for him she will love him. He taught her that pink, gay, straight, brown, orange it doesn’t matter WHO we are matters.
SPD has taught me a lesson. I was TERRIFIED of having a boy like my stepson. He was wild, crazy, a race car. He was constantly knocking into me. Knocked me down the stairs when I was pregnant with Jack and didn’t even realize or care. I prayed, I begged, I needed a girl. Girls were calmer, gentle, reasonable like my lexi was. Instead I was gifted with this boy who would make my wild stepson seem calm. I was given a boy. A boy who doesn’t feel pain. A boy who runs into walls, climbs the highest towers, has never gotten dizzy, who shows no fear or mercy. He is also the kindest and deepest loving of all my children. He inspires me and terrifies me on a daily basis. I homeschool for him. He is a mustang wild and free I will not have him broken. Story time is often accomplished while he jumps on anything or everything or is hanging upside down off the side of his bunk bed. I used to watch him climb frozen in fear that he would get hurt. Now I watch on occasion with pride (often i don’t watch because i don’t want him to be worried about me watching him) he is happy when pushing his body to its limits I remember being that girl on the back of a horse riding faster jumping higher until i learned from others fears. I don’t want him to stop on account of mine. He pushes me to new limits that I didn’t think i had in me. I learn I adapt I love.
Love and acceptance thats all I want for children not just mine but all.
I love that you asked for help. I hope you can accept that I was not trying to judge but ask tough questions to give you a place to accept him that it really isnt the end of the world. Just love.”
Honestly I don’t know how to end this post. I don’t think its about homosexuality at all just about gender roles and assumptions and frankly I wish in so many ways children were sexless until I don’t know 10 then it wouldn’t matter if our boys were ballerinas or girls played soldier they would just be children free to explore, learn, play and most of all just be loved.
Wow it’s been crazy here since our return from the
holidays. Seems we aren’t the only one starting 2011 with a stomach
thing though. It’s our 1st Sunday all feeling well and our last
before we are back to the grind. We spent it getting a new puppy so
welcome home Pippi the puggle beagle puppy!