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I’ve been knitting, and knitting, and knitting.

I’ve been knitting, and knitting, and knitting.

I know I’ve been knitting a little here and there for a while now. In the past few months I’ve really fallen in love though. I’ve gotten good enough that I don’t have to look at my hands constantly while knitting anymore, I’m comfortable knitting flat or in the round, I’ve even added a ton of new skills like  cables, short rows and even the provisional cast on. Sorry for all the pictures (I did mention I’ve been knitting lots right) I’ve been a busy girl. Clicking on the links after the photos you can read more about the patterns and yarns used.

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Doesn’t this basket full of yarn make you want to knit?

finnmonster

It started back in October when I started knitting to make sure I had a jumpstart on the busy birthday/holiday season with this monster for Finn. Meet Maddox as you can see Finn loved his birthday monster.

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Next up Lexi had requested a black cat ear hat. I was so excited to use my new stitch markers.

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Isn’t Lexi so pretty with her ear flap cat hat?

tracyhat

When Lexi went up to Connecticut for the holidays my sister saw her hat and asked for me to make her one too. Rory modeled it for her.

I even made a striped version for my other sis (aka my little brother’s long time girlfriend Kristin) alas, I forgot to get a picture of it.

scarf

My very first cable project was a scarf for Lexi in hindsight I should have used a different yarn and my stitch markers much more because cabled rows are harder to count than I realized.

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Then I started to panic. Aidan was leaving in Mid November to go to Baltimore for Thanksgiving and he had no hat and I only had 2 days so I had to use whatever yarn I could find at the local craft store at 8pm after a slight mishap with his first hat being accidentally felted in the washer. This slouchy hat was perfect and super quick to knit!

mitten

From October til about 10 days into December in between all projects I had a pair of these little mittens on needles.

babyhat

A pregnant friend having a little boy needed a little baby shower gift. So onto the needles went this adorable little hat.

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Isn’t it adorable? I still can’t get over just how small this newborn sized long tail hat is.

yarnmail

My mailbox had a happy, happy, joy, joy day when all this arrived one day.

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And, I kept knitting mittens.

gloveprogress

I started knitting Lexi a pair of gloves.

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I finished one cat in the hat glove. Though currently I’ve also taken it back apart because the thumb was funny on it. Its a back burner project for now.

monster I started Jack’s birthday present.

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Loving monsters.

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I love, love, love the super long arms on these monsters, and I can’t wait to get my hands on that colorway yarn again either.

mittens

finally finished the mitten advent calendar garland.

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I started a cable rimmed hat for my little brother in the same green yarn from his scarf I made him last Christmas.

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Thankfully this cable hat it was also a pretty quick project and I will be making these for the whole family if we ever live where we need hats again.

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Cast on Rory’s creeper. If you or your kids play the game minecraft you know what a creeper is. Rory loves/hates them and its the ONLY thing he wanted for Hannukkah/Christmas so it HAD to happen. Even if that means knitting til 2am on Christmas Eve to pull it off.

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And, pull it off I did. Here is Rory dancing with his Creeper.

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Finn requested a dinosaur vs. another monster so a dinosaur he would get. The yarn for this is even called dino-RAWR.

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Spent some time playing with my Christmas gifts, my ball winder,

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and, swift.

slippers

Took a quick dinosaur break to knit myself up a quick pair of slippers because we were having a cold front and my toes were cold.

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Went back and finished Basil the Brontosaurus who loves to give Maddox rides.

softkitty

Then my girlie was coming home after a month in Connecticut and I knit her a little soft kitty as part of her Christmas gift.

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You get a bonus picture because I think Lexi looks so beautiful in this one.

I haven’t stopped knitting I’ve been knitting a pair of socks. Socks take a long time but they will get a separate post I’ve been documenting their progress via instagram quite a bit.

Do you knit? Whats on your needles right now?

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We went to the zoo… day two

We went to the zoo… day two

Rory and Finn had so much fun at the zoo it was all they talked about. Steve was coming up for the weekend from Key West and I mentioned that maybe the following day we could all go to the zoo. The kids LOVED that idea. I also decided to bring my telephoto lens instead of my standard lens on the second day. I’ll spare you the eleventy billion animal pictures (except a few I can’t resist) that I took.

I thought a picture with the peacock would be a nice tradition. Then we rented one of those pedal car things they have here. It really was a nice change from the day before when the boys & I walked the whole zoo.

We also went backwards from the way we went the day before so the giraffes happened very early on. I just loved the interaction between the mama giraffe and her baby. The kids fed them too but I wasn’t up on the platform this time because there was also a classroom up there.

The Okapi was trotting in circles too which Finn loved.

Another new tradition with the post lunch kids in front of the pot o’ gold.

I was so excited when this butterfly landed right in front of where I was standing.

I was really admiring the lions when that butterfly had happened past. This guy saw me and gave up quite a few poses for me. Thank you sir.

Of course we made sure to be over near the chimps and the gorillas for feeding time. The boys had even more questions today and even answered a few of their own. This is JJ and his daughter Alice getting ready to have some snacks.

We ended the day once again with some dippin dots and home we went. I being tired forgot to get a dippin dots picture today sorry. I was too busy capturing images of the flamingos/

So what is your favorite thing to do at the zoo?

March Recap

March Recap

I know I know I said I’d never write one of these again but life with 5 kids is honestly a whirlwind and I feel lately like I’m constantly struggling to keep up with everything.

 

After Rory’s party things just kept flying by. Some pretty cool things happened though. I got a bike! Yup thats right I got a bike the kids and I were riding daily through our neighborhood, taking nightly walks and somehow I lost a bunch of weight, which is what inspired the bike purchase. Isn’t she cute? I have to admit this is the first time i’ve ridden a bike in close to 20 years.

Then one day Finn and I did something awesome together. We pulled out the herbs and he designed his tea blend, just like his siblings did. He was so proud and he loves to get out the teapot and put the herbs & honey in all by himself and have a cuppa or three because he likes to do everything in threes these days. It will be in the shop soon I just need to think of a name and get it listed. Do you have any ideas?

I also got my craft on a little at my husband’s request. You see he was going through the Coast Guard CCTI program and he needed a fancy charge book and always on a budget I said why don’t we make you one out of your old uniforms. In my head this was an easy task UNTIL he added on all sorts of requests like lets make it so you button it closed, and do you think it can have pockets on the inside and some other things I don’t even remember now that I’m pretty sure I vetoed.

A major thing that happened here which had been pretty awesome in most aspects is BRACES! Thats right BOTH Lexi & I went to the orthodontist and got braces. Its something I’ve always wanted to do and almost did once before as an adult and figured we could do it together. If I had known just how much is was going to hurt though let me tell you I would have probably skipped it, the bonus is I’m losing more weight because of it because well it hurts to snack/eat to I’m eating more smoothies and juicing and skipping that late night tv snacking.

To finish out the month Finn was looking through Jack & Rory’s old Main Lesson Books from when we were using Oak Meadow and he wanted an A gate picture too. What kind of mom would I be if I didn’t then read him the Story of Peter Rabbit and draw with him an A gate picture. Then for fun I posed all three boys together with their pictures so you can see how the different gates of our backyards have influenced my drawing. Please ignore the marker all over Finn he was fighting Zombies according to him.

February Recap

February Recap

 

Woo Hoo this is the last monthly recap post tomorrow I’ll have just a regular concise post for you aren’t you excited? 

Early in the month I decided to restock our freezer with pancakes. What started as a couple batches of pancakes turned into making 125 pancakes 3 at a time in a pan on the stove I know crazy right? I started with plain, then was asked if I’d make apple, then banana nut, then I went crazy and also made cranberry orange, lemon blueberry and a savory tomato, basil & mozzarella that we had for dinner.

Jack received this new friend also named Jack from the amazing danamarie you can check out her work in both her greenstarstudio and mightMIGHT shops.

We went on a shopping trip to get some new clothes and Rory said he needed these sunglasses.

We played in the rain and painted.

Lexi got a guitar after so many months waiting. Remember this?

After the insanity of making all those pancakes on a pan I splurged and bought a griddle and waffle iron so we tested them out with  strawberries and fresh whipped cream and dinner outside under the moon on the patio.

   We had some great family time all together again with the kids really enjoying the pool.

Rory and Finn helped me plant a teeny garden late in the season for Miami but hey better late than never right?

Rory and I went shopping and started gathering supplies for his Rainbow Spectacular Birthday party.

We also got an Xbox and I have really enjoyed watching the kids play Just Dance! By the smiles on their faces I think they like it too!

 

 

January  Recap

January Recap

I didn’t take a ton of pictures in January so you are saved from a post with eleventh billion pictures in it again. 

Lexi got a kindle and this was how we found her (and often still do) for hours on end.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Then I spent a bazillion hours on the couch watching the 1st season of Game of Thrones and part of Homeland and talking with my Dad who was still visiting while I knit Jack up this new friend from this pattern.

Then even though it seemed like we had just gotten healthy again we were all sick again. BOOOO.

We became obsessed with brussel sprouts. Our favorite way to prepare them a little butter & oil some sautéed garlic and bacon bits. We are currently going though about 6-10 lbs of sprouts per week because we love them so much.

Then I cut fabric for quilts for the boys! I was so excited Finn’s is so fun! Jack’s is so orange. Rory picked out most of the fabrics for his by himself I was so proud. Aidan’s is blue blue blue. Its actually quite hard to find blue quilters cottons not in florals who knew?

  

I brought the kids to the dentist. It was Finn’s 1st time he did really great! Rory and Aidan were paired and Rory was able to ask the hygienist 84,000 questions during Aidan’s cleaning before it was his turn. I’m pretty proud I brought all five kids to the dentist and we walked out with ZERO kids with cavities! I also walked out with appointments for Lexi and I to see the in house orthodontist the following month.

To wrap up the month our mugs arrived from the wonderful Brenna (a different one) each kid got their own mug so they would leave mine alone! Rory also added this beautiful tea pot to his collection he named her Cassie.

 

 

 

December Recap

December Recap

For as busy as November was December was even busier! I hope you enjoy pictures! 

December started with a revamp of all the body butter packaging.

Then came my last show of the year with the West Elm + Etsy event. I had a blast stepping outside my box display wise and using props from the store.

Then because Rory had gotten his cast off he was ready to start riding his bike. Finn couldn’t be out done so was happy to play on Jack’s scooter.

Then I had the kids paint some wood cut out birds as decorations for our tree as I didn’t think glass ornaments and hard tile floors would get along well. The kids decorated the tree and we were lucky to have Steve home to hang some lights on the outside. Even if the weather was 70+ it was beginning to feel a bit festive.

Lexi with all her culinary skills made us some fab chicken stir fry one night for dinner.

After the ornament painting the boys were on a painting kick.

As a special request I made some just plain scented bath salts.

My poor mail carrier this is what she saw on a pretty regular basis through November and December.

We decorated some gingerbread houses.

Jack turned 8! Can you believe it EIGHT!!! Pirate themed and an ice-cream cake!! All he wanted for weeks before was a cat so we searched for days on craigslist and scored this sweet little girl he aptly named Mason.

Then it was the first night of Chanukah  and Steve said the blessings for us over the phone and we had amazing sweet potato latkes which I forgot to get a picture of.

Then I decided to take on the insane task of making everyone in the family stockings. Not just any stockings stockings that would match their quilts to come in the future. So now just a week before Christmas while still packing and filling orders I had to nail down color schemes and actual quilt patterns for at least 5 people. Lexi’s actually used leftover pieces and an embroidery square from her quilt. Jack’s was actually easy I knew he wanted an orange zig zag.  Rory would want pink, Aidan blue, and Finn green, but to find patterns to match their personalities was hard.  In the end I think they came to great.

 My crafting actually inspired Aidan to get his craft on too!

On Christmas Eve we were invited over to a friends home to celebrate Nochebuena (Christmas Eve) the food was AMAZING!!! There was mojito pork, rice, beans, fried plantains,  Tres Leches Cake and great friends! We had so much fun and like we belonged! THANK YOU Frances, Julie & Families!!

Then we hurried home to unwrap our traditional Christmas pajamas and climb into bed! If you look closely Aidan & Steve have matching pants.

Then we woke up and opened up some fun presents. That apron Lexi is holding up and the bedside organizer Steve is holding up those were made by Aidan back when he got his craft on. That tshirt I got Steve was really an joke because at EVERY show I do I get asked at least once if when I make soap if it is like the scene in Fight Club.

Then one day I finally followed my kids out with my camera to catch some shots of them all riding their new bikes they got earlier in the month for St Nicholas Day.

We wound up both the month & year with a visit from my Dad and a little New Year’s Eve swimming.

Recap of November

Recap of November

Remember when I was posting how thankful I was for my kids at the beginning of November because I got really sick. Yeah well STAYED really sick for about 3 weeks. During that time some of my children got sick thankfully not as bad off as I did. I got really behind on orders in Novemember too and I’m very sorry for that, things that should have gone out in a couple days were taking upwards of a week because I just couldn’t be upright that long and I grossly underestimated the time it would take.

 

We were also really excited to welcome my husband home for a while.

 

Ok so thats where I left off with this post I started you know 4 months ago.  So here is how we will play this now a picture tour. Be prepared this will be very picture heavy!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

We Start with a little haircut by Rory notice how you can actually see scalp in places. Oh boys!

I was starting to feel better (or so I thought) just in time for the craft carnival  so off I went. I am soooooooo grateful to Brenna & Lexi who held down the fort and brought all unsold items safely home when I had to leave early because I didn’t feel good. I really couldn’t have made it through without you guys LOVE YOU!!!!

I left my iPad with the girls to use the square if they needed to a while later I found this little gem of a picture Brenna left me with (thanks kiddo).

In between much napping and trying to get orders packed I also started working on this little knitted Okapi for Finn’s 3rd birthday.

One night Lexi made us some AMAZING rice & beans and we got Aidan to try an olive.

We also Made some Charleston She-Crab Soup! YUM!!!

The Holiday Limited Edition Soaps came out in their Fancy new packaging!

After what seemed like forever to Rory his cast FINALLY came off.

Finn turned 3! Can you believe it THREE! We started with a birthday boy breakfast made by Aidan & Lexi. Later in the day we had some crafts and presents and cupcakes! Three SERIOUSLY!?!?!

 Then I made some make your own Elderberry Syrup (I promise I will get better pictures and actually get them in the shops soon) kits.

 I took the picture for our holiday card which I might never have actually gotten printed OOPS.

Finn made his 1st pecan pie for Thanksgiving.

Rory moved on to pumpkin pie this year.

Jack moved on to apple pie.

Rory welcomed Lucy the cat into all of our lives.

November also saw us saying farewell to Brenna who moved back to CT. We miss you kid.

Hey Remember Me?

Hey Remember Me?

Hi I’m Jenni remember me? I know just as I got into a good routine of blogging I all up and disappeared. I’ve been here I’ve just been extremely busy with the kids and life and making stuff and crafting. I’m going to do my best this week now that I have a moment in time to breathe to catch you up on all sorts of awesome but in the meantime I just wanted to drop in to give you a heads up that I’m still here.

A little glimpse of what I’ll be sharing this week

November saw birthdays

November saw birthdays,

new friends,

more new labels,

and lots of baking.

 December brought us another birthday,

holiday presents,

so many packages (thank you),

and lots of crafting.

January brought some fabric selections,

a soap making class,

and lots of cutting and planning for my second quilt.

February was all about making my second quilt and planning for March!
March brought Rory’s Rainbow Spectacular!

And all along a little of this has been happening.

So you see we have a ton of stuff to cover and I have yet to decide the order in which we go! I’m really really excited to share the birthday party with you but there are things that happened back in November that lead up to the birthday just know that somehow though multiple posts and an insane amount of pictures we will discuss all of the above and even more over at least the next week?

Have you ever gotten off track of something and wanted to get back on the horse? How did you go about it? What have you been up to all these months?

Wordless Wednesday

Wordless Wednesday

Moments around our house on this rainy afternoon.

We’ve moved! and why I’m so far behind in shipping

We’ve moved! and why I’m so far behind in shipping

 

Rory, Jack, Finn, Aidan & Lexi

Remember a couple months ago when I said there were changes coming? WOW I wish I had known really how much my life was going to change in mid may.  I had literally just sat in the tub for my weekly soak. The time I hide myself away in the tub to soak when I get the chance is absolutely sacred to me its something that makes me feel so good mentally & physically. Steve knocked on the bathroom door, it had been a hectic day I told him to go away. He opened the door instead and came in the look on his face was frightening. I thought something had happened to my gram and my mom called him to break the news for me. What he said instead was even more shocking. “Tara died.” WHAT? My anxiety level not only hit the roof in about 30 seconds but soared up on past it. You see Tara was his ex-wife, the mother of his oldest child.

 

This all happened literally eight days before the movers were showing up at our house to pack everything and move us to Miami. So in the course of eight days I finished making 65 more pounds of soap for Artscape, rearranged our already cramped too small Baltimore rowhome to store the contents of a seventh person and said person, dealt with emotionally supporting my husband through the loss of his ex-wife and the custody disagreement that followed, researched grief support and books for the 11 year old boy that would now be living with us and panicked.

My entire timetable at this point was thrown out a window. Who knew that just adding one extra child to the mix when we already had four would throw everything upside down. Most days Aidan is in good spirits. The way our household works is however completely different from what he was used to so there are some bumps everyday. He is encouraged by his own health and wellness due to some of the changes.

We will get through though its all been so much slower than I had anticipated and I’m so very sorry for the excessive delays at this point on shipping things. Its been three weeks now since we arrived in our new home and yesterday my husband left leaving me alone for the next 45 days alone with 5 children. We are adjusting. The pool helps.

 

101 in 1001 UPDATE

101 in 1001 UPDATE

Ok this is yet another thing that had great plans and got pushed aside in the craziness of what 2010 was! Lets see where I’m at I actually completed a few more things than I expected but probably need to rethink a few as well!

101 Things in 1001 days
** Items in orange have been re evaluated or changed.
Get Inspired
  1. Ask for advice and take it
  2. Have a Yes! day. 0/6
  3. Gratitude blog weekly 10 times 0/10
  4. Identify 100 things that make me happy 0/100
  5. Identify 25 things I like about myself 0/25
  6. Go to a coffee shop & enjoy time ALONE! 0/6
  7. Blog 15 times per month 0/32
  8. Blog a kid or photo post 50 times 0/50

Get Green

Last garden harvest

9. Plan herb and; vegetable garden
10. Plant herb and vegetable garden
11. Sew reusable bags for craft shows
12. Find 5 ways to be greener 0/5
13. Build Raised Garden beds
14. Start Worm composting (as much as I love this idea we know we are moving in the spring 2012 so Ill start it after the move)
15. Make produce bags to share
16. Promote reusable items on blog monthly 0/32
17. Set up table at neighborhood fair about eco savings and green on the cheap
Get Organized
18. Organize Craft areas and Keep them that way 0/2
19. Finish decorating each room 0/6
20. Clean up kitchen at NIGHT not the next morning every night for 3 weeks instead of in the morning 0/21
21. send out birthday cards for everyone on calendar each month 0/32 Change to Ecards its GREENER!
22. Make bed every morning for a week for 3 weeks 0/21
Get Crafty
23. Learn to knit in the round make hats 0/6
24. Knit socks for whole family 0/8
25. Sew more aprons for myself 0/5
26. Make a quilt out of scraps
27.. Finish all UFO’s
Get Cultured
28. Read 10 Non Fiction Books 4/10
29. Read 10 Books of my choosing 0/10
30. Visit 20 Museums with the kids 8/20
31. Listen to 3 Friends complete playlists 1/3
32. Go someplace weekly with kids non errand related 5/50
Get Domestic
33. Make a new recipe 0/64 I’ll go through our meal plans to update this)
34. Cook and host a holiday meal (it was cooked but we had no one to host)
35. Organize a cookie swap
36. Organize a craft swap
37. Bake goodies for neighbors
38. Plant flower pots for front and keep them alive the entire season 0/3
39. Learn to bake edible bread
For My Kids
40. Read to kids daily
41. Start Nancy Drew Mysteries with Lexi
42. Update kids blog Bi-weekly 0/70
43. Bake with Lexi each month 2/30
44. Bake with Jack each month 2/30
45. Bake with Rory each month 2/30
46. Visit with Brenna 4/6
47. Create a conversation Jar for mealtimes & use it 0/30
48. Reinstate Friday Feingold Family Night
49. Date night with each kid monthly
    1. Lexi 2/32
    2. Jack 2/32
    3. Rory 2/32
    4. Finn 2/32
Get Geeky
50. Create Back up system for media stuff
51. Learn how to actually use photoshop (still struggling I’ll be getting aperture instead)
52. Learn to make Banner, button, and background images 1/3
53. Reformat Labels
Get Healthy
54. Lose 101 pounds 13/101
55. Drink 8 Glasses of water daily for 30 days 30/30
56. Run  a 5k twice 0/2
57. work out 5x per week for 5 weeks 3/25
58. Attend a yoga class 0/3
59. Find and go to chiropractor regularly again
60. Remember to take vitamins daily 30/30
61. Go to sleep before midnight more regularly
Get Stuff
62. Save for new Camera
63. Craft table (opted for a different organizational direction instead)
  1. Trundle bed for Lexi’s room (she wants a full size bed instead)
    B. She also asked for a new dresser like ours
65. Save for new bed and dressers
    1. Bed
    2. Dressers 2/2
Get Philanthropic
66. Donate 10% of sales per month to a cause 0/32
67. Make actual soap donations 3/12
68. Donate replaced furniture to family in need
Get Debt Free
69. Save Cash into a Jar for a “rainy day” (I think it rains to often)
70. Become Debt free with snowball method
71. Sell Minivan $ be car payment free (keeping minivan only 11 payments left)
72. Stick to menuplan for a month 0/10
73. Consign outgrown kids stuff (Donated most of it)
74. Add $5 for each completed task $10 for each uncompleted task 21/101
75. Create and implement budget WITH Steve
76. Cancel unused services
Get Social
77. Meet 5 new people 0/5
78. Have a Girls night out 0/6
79. Inspire 2 other people to do 101 in 1001 0/2
80. Plan a paint your pottery night
81. Have a date with Steve 0/4
82. Have a meal with someone unexpected
Get Somewhere
83. Take a mother daughter day trip
84. Visit South Carolina 0/3
85. Take a family Vacation
Get Educated
86. Finish Current course work
87. Take East West herb course
88. Retake A and P
Get Busy in Business
89. Finish Reading Crush It!
90. Re evaluate COGs
91. Enter 3 spring juried shows for 2010 3/3
92. Enter 3 fall/winter shows for 2010 3/3
93. Streamline processes
94. Double 2009 sales in 2010
95. Actually do accounting monthly 0/32
96. Develop 3 new teas 1/3
97. Do a time accounting of how long things actually take
98. Design website (or have done) (in PROGRESS)
99. Investigate greener packaging
100. Plan a product givaway
101. Have FUN completing 101 things!

Pink Boy Princesses

Pink Boy Princesses

The whole boys loving pink is getting quite a bit of publicity these days. I’m on the fence about it all. Having a pink loving ballet dancing boy princess I understand it. However I also am not doing it because I relate to a celebrity or want my 15 minutes or want to exploit my son in anyway. I am here to help him pave the way, to help others who are in a situation now pave the way, to CHANGE things so maybe he won’t have to suffer quite so much. I do this as nothing more than Rory’s mother. I do this for love.

This was recently brought to the surface again from a place I least expected it. A mother was asking for help because her boy like mine likes pink, princesses and playing with the girls. When she asked him why he simply said because boys don’t fight. Then she said “My husband and I are very strict on this issue and most of the time try to not to allow him to do girlish things hoping that this might change his attitude.can we do anything to prevent it. we are really worried that this might affect his future sexual identity. please help.”

WHOA! WHAT?!?!

I drafted my reply :”This deeply offends me  on many many levels. What is wrong with him liking pink? Will it hurt anyone if for a year or 6 months or 5 years he likes pink or barbie or princesses? Will it make him less of a man down the road to be caring and considerate kind empathetic in ways that many women complain that they wish their husbands, boyfriends partners were? Gender roles disgust me. If it were your little girl doing things that boys do like become educated, vote, work outside the home, become a teacher, doctor lawyer president would you still care? As recently at the 1950′s pink has historically been am masculine color and blue a calmer color reserved for girls.

I see my 4.5 yo boys love for pink no different than his 7 yo brothers need to wear orange for 2 straight years and honestly Rory is less intense and dramatic about it. He is my softer gentler boy. He takes ballet. He loves it it makes him happy so happy the teacher has said he truly brightens the class including the girl who used to push and shove in the class who doesn’t anymore. He was a “boy fairy princess” for Halloween I admire his creativity.

What right do I have to ever make him feel his beliefs are wrong? What kind of a parent would I be to make him feel any less than accepted for who he is! He wants to grow up and be a ballerina and a mommy so he can wear babies in slings and have snuggle time and read stories in nests. I can’t wait! And so what if in 20 years hens the “mommy” I’ll be there to love and support him. He doesn’t put gender roles on mommy & daddy other than mommy is comfort mommy takes care of us. Daddy can be abrupt and stern.

Future sex identity? Sounds to me more like some homophobic fear talking. Would it really be the end of the world if he is gay and happy? Or Would you prefer that he feel unaccepted and shut out in his own home by the people in the world who are supposed to love him the most during adolescence when things are confusing enough and rather than disappoint you or other fears kills himself instead?”

Rory in pink Opening his "the only boy in ballet class" book

Should I have left it like that maybe not but I really wanted to make a point. I offended her. I think I probably meant to. I meant her to get mad to fight for her child to put on her mama bear big girl panties and protect her child to love him to fight for him. She is from Dubai she is using culture as an “excuse” for her behavior. I understand that homosexuality is not always accepted in other places and then I thought is it REALLY accepted here in the good ole US of A? BUT, BUT, BUT before we even get that far lets remember that we are also discussing a little boy here he is FOUR! FOUR! They don’t do things at this point to be gay or straight. They just do things to not hurt, to not feel challenged, or ridiculed.  I sent off a second response. A response that in all honesty I cried while drafting. A response that has since moved me to tears reading it to a few friends over the phone. Friends that I know will be right there by my side loving my children and fighting for them as I will be for theres. Friends I thanks my lucky stars on a daily basis for having. Friends who urged me to share with you.

“This entire thing has been bothering me since I saw it. I was up pacing at midnight and couldn’t sleep til about 2 am and was up again at 4 still bothered by it. My heart breaks for children who are not accepted for whatever the reason by their family. Be it a father who is unaccepting of his daughter’s dyslexia. A mother who doesn’t understand how food is interfering with her children’s behavior. A sibling who torments his brother for liking to cook.

I was not intending to attack I was intending to ask tough questions to say the things often left unsaid. I understand cultural differences it does not mean I have to like them and I will challenge them. An example: My fathers family is from the old south my family did own slaves. Its a truth. It disgusts me. We live in the inner city of Baltimore we are the only white family on our block. A family member came to visit a year ago and asked us how we liked living around a bunch of niggers I nearly threw up. It was not a word my children had heard and if they had definitely not in that context. I explained that we lived around a bunch of hard working, working class families trying to do the best for their children and families. That it was hard enough trying to teach our children not to judge without someone they loved and respect to act in such a way  and in my home I would not tolerate such language and I don’t.

I was very upset and posted a comment on my facebook page and a wonderful dear friend responded “The funny thing is, this isn’t solely about parenting. Rejecting the feminine, whether it’s attitudes or interest, in men/boys is plain old misogyny. I find it shocking to hear that there are so many femininity-hating mothers out there. FEMININITY IS NOT A CURSE OR AN INDICATION OF ONE’S SEXUALITY.” I hadn’t though of it that way at all, a new point of view.

Nada you asked a question I know my response upset you and I’m not entirely sorry it upset you. I believe our children are here to teach us life lessons. To teach us ALL life lessons. My 17 year old daughter like you and your husband fears that my acceptance of my pink princess loving boy and  is also worried that it will affect his future sexual identity. Ironically he is her favorite of her little brothers and we have had many an argument not speaking for a few days over it my response to her was that no matter what I will love him I will support him I will fight for him. If he is a pink princess ballet loving construction worker with a gay lover I will love him. If he is an orange cowboy monster truck train loving ballerina hairdresser with a wife and kids I will love him. There is absolutely nothing in this world he could do that will stop me from loving him. I shared this with my daughter I said to her many of the things I said in the email. That I would rather him be alive and happy than dead because he was miserable and scared. I think she finally understood. For christmas she bought him a princess board game and pink pajamas. He hugged her and said “thank you brenna for loving the pink me”. I sobbed. Though she had never really said anything to him he knew. She is now a member of his boy princess club. She will fight for him she will love him. He taught her that pink, gay, straight, brown, orange it doesn’t matter WHO we are matters.

SPD has taught me a lesson. I was TERRIFIED of having a boy like my stepson. He was wild, crazy, a race car. He was constantly knocking into me. Knocked me down the stairs when I was pregnant with Jack and didn’t even realize or care. I prayed, I begged, I needed a girl. Girls were calmer, gentle, reasonable like my lexi was. Instead I was gifted with this boy who would make my wild stepson seem calm. I was given a boy. A boy who doesn’t feel pain.  A boy who runs into walls, climbs the highest towers, has never gotten dizzy, who shows no fear or mercy. He is also the kindest and deepest loving of all my children. He inspires me and terrifies me on a daily basis. I homeschool for him. He is a mustang wild and free I will not have him broken. Story time is often accomplished while he jumps on anything or everything or is hanging upside down off the side of his bunk bed. I used to watch him climb frozen in fear that he would get hurt. Now I watch on occasion with pride (often i don’t watch because i don’t want him to be worried about me watching him) he is happy when pushing his body to its limits I remember being that girl on the back of a horse riding faster jumping higher until i learned from others fears. I don’t want him to stop on account of mine. He pushes me to new limits that I didn’t think i had in me. I learn I adapt I love.

Love and acceptance thats all I want for children not just mine but all.

I love that you asked for help. I hope you can accept that I was not trying to judge but ask tough questions to give you a place to accept him that it really isnt the end of the world. Just love.”

Honestly I don’t know how to end this post. I don’t think its about homosexuality at all just about gender roles and assumptions and frankly I wish in so many ways children were sexless until I don’t know 10 then it wouldn’t matter if our boys were ballerinas or girls played soldier they would just be children free to explore, learn, play and most of all just be loved.

How I spent Mother's Day

How I spent Mother's Day

Woke up EXTREMELY sore from the windfest and tent holding the pervious say at Squidfire’s Art Mart, but still I wanted to go to the JFX Farmer’s Market. So even though it was only 8am I had a cup of coffee (ok I had 2) and started sending kids off to get dressed. It was cold yet bustling all those plants wanting to come home with me. Instead we got some greens, asparagus and strawberries because they were so yummy and ripe smelling.

Afterwards we headed to Lowes to finish getting rocks and dirt for the raised beds Steve and the kids had built me a few weeks earlier.

So a shopping cart and contractor’s cart later home we head. After a few hours of work where I over worked already sore muscles and this is what I ended up with. Potato bins to the left, the raised bed, and sweet potato and garlic to the right with some marigolds tossed in to hopefully protect everything.

Then on the patio table we never seem to use I have some herbs and my tea cup planter full of Red Clover and Dandelions.

My favorite part of the day was sitting with the kids and planting their seeds in their Sesame Street planters.

Jack planted Bert & Ernie Peppers, Lexi planted Oscar the Grouch Green Beans, Finn some Elmo Tomatoes and Rory the pink Abby Cadabby Pumpkins.

Steve even put some wire on the bottom of the compost bin and got that set up for me too. I’m so excited about our little garden in the city this year!

We even had our first harvest of greens for a salad to add to dinner.

How I spent Mother’s Day

How I spent Mother’s Day

Woke up EXTREMELY sore from the windfest and tent holding the pervious say at Squidfire’s Art Mart, but still I wanted to go to the JFX Farmer’s Market. So even though it was only 8am I had a cup of coffee (ok I had 2) and started sending kids off to get dressed. It was cold yet bustling all those plants wanting to come home with me. Instead we got some greens, asparagus and strawberries because they were so yummy and ripe smelling.

Afterwards we headed to Lowes to finish getting rocks and dirt for the raised beds Steve and the kids had built me a few weeks earlier.

So a shopping cart and contractor’s cart later home we head. After a few hours of work where I over worked already sore muscles and this is what I ended up with. Potato bins to the left, the raised bed, and sweet potato and garlic to the right with some marigolds tossed in to hopefully protect everything.

Then on the patio table we never seem to use I have some herbs and my tea cup planter full of Red Clover and Dandelions.

My favorite part of the day was sitting with the kids and planting their seeds in their Sesame Street planters.

Jack planted Bert & Ernie Peppers, Lexi planted Oscar the Grouch Green Beans, Finn some Elmo Tomatoes and Rory the pink Abby Cadabby Pumpkins.

Steve even put some wire on the bottom of the compost bin and got that set up for me too. I’m so excited about our little garden in the city this year!

We even had our first harvest of greens for a salad to add to dinner.

Photo of the day

Photo of the day

Better late than never right? Photo of the day is of Jack & Rory hard at work coloring their greenstarstudio color your own valentines. I know the boys enjoyed coloring as much as giving!

Photo of the Day

Since we homeschool I try to get a first day of school picture around when the local schools start this is our picture from this school year. The bandaid well Jack thought it made him look cool.
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